Learn seven tips on how to speak up with confidence in a group setting. Topics covered include the importance of body language, nonverbal cues, and speaking up during pauses. The video emphasizes the significance of making clear and concise points, avoiding dramatic behavior, and maintaining confident nonverbal cues like eye contact. By following these tips, you can improve your ability to communicate confidently in group settings.
The video provides seven tips on how to speak up with confidence in a group setting. It emphasizes the importance of body language, such as leaning in and pushing your chair closer to the table, to show active participation. It advises against asking for permission to speak, as it can imply lower status and undermine credibility. Instead, it suggests speaking up during a pause in the conversation and signaling your intention through nonverbal cues like leaning forward, inhaling audibly, and lifting a finger. The video also emphasizes the importance of making clear and concise points without using fillers or qualifiers. It advises against being dramatic and recommends staying composed. Additionally, it highlights the significance of confident nonverbal cues, such as making eye contact with high-status individuals and maintaining eye contact and attentive listening after speaking. Following these tips can help individuals appear and sound more confident when speaking up.
- We're going to look at seven tips that will teach you
how to speak up with confidence.
And we'll be not using one of these things.
We're gonna teach you how to do it in a group setting
because that's usually where people struggle.
So let's get into it.
Before we get into these tips,
be sure to look at some of the free resources
in the description below the video,
including a PDF download about the five essential
communication skills that all professionals should have.
As we look at these tips
you'll probably notice these are the exact behaviors
that people who already speak up confidently do.
In other words, this is what confident people sound like
and look like when they speak up.
So let's learn from them and develop our own skills.
Here are seven do's and don'ts.
Don't sit back in your chair or lean away from the table.
You want to literally lean in.
When you are pushed back or leaned back in your chair,
it's more difficult for others to see you
and make eye contact with you.
Now, I will admit that this sometimes feels more relaxing
and makes it seem like the world is at my command
but it doesn't come across that way to others.
When you are sat back from the table,
you'll look like you are voluntarily casting yourself
in a minor role.
You might be taking up more space
but you're taking up space away from the action.
Instead, you want to push in your chair
so your body is up against the edge of the table
and even lean forward a little bit.
This puts you non-verbally in the mix.
This sends the signal to yourself and to others
that you are in the game as an active participant.
It puts you in a great nonverbal position and posture
to speak up even if you haven't said anything yet.
Number two, don't ask for permission to speak.
Assume they expect you to speak.
I've heard many people over the years say things like,
"Can I say something?"
Or, "Is it okay if I ask a question?"
So asking for permission like this
implies that you are a lower status person
compared to the others.
And that's a question
that brand new employees sometimes ask.
You don't wanna sound brand new.
Also asking for permission is another way
of communicating that you don't think
you have the right to speak.
And that can undermine what you say
and can hurt your credibility.
If you are attending a meeting,
assume you already have permission to speak
and that everybody wants and even expects you to speak.
The truth is if you're not speaking up,
at every meeting people will begin to wonder
what kind of value you are adding.
So don't ask for permission, it sends the wrong message.
Number three, in the same way,
don't wait for an invitation.
Just wait for a short pause.
So don't wait for someone to say,
"Sarah, what do you think?"
So I've been in hundreds, maybe thousands of meetings
and I can count the number of times
I was directly asked for my specific opinion on one hand.
Now, if somebody looks in your direction in the discussion,
that's about as close as you'll get to an invitation
most of the time but don't wait for that.
The expectation in almost all professional settings
is that if you have something to say, you will say it.
But if you're not waiting for an invitation,
then when should you jump in?
Well, the way confident people speak up
is on the pause.
As you're getting ready to speak,
you can usually hear that a pause is coming.
That somebody is winding down what they're saying.
And what confident people do
is when they hear that somebody's talking turn
is winding down,
they ramp up and begin to speak in that micro moment,
just as the first person is finishing.
So a big part of this is timing.
Anticipate somebody is about ready to finish,
get ready and start talking as soon as they pause.
And number four,
don't assume that other people know you wanna speak.
Clearly signal that you're about to talk.
So people don't typically look around the room
and see if anyone else wants to talk before they jump in.
You have to send the right signals.
So here's how to do it.
As the person before you is finishing their talking turn,
send these three clear nonverbal signals.
First lean forward,
second, inhale audibly through your mouth
and third, lift your finger.
And I mean this finger, not the one next to it.
So if you have done these three non-verbal behaviors
at the same time,
most people will recognize that you are about to speak
and they will look at you and they'll wait.
I've done this many times just as an experiment
and you can practice it with me right now.
And almost every time, people around you will stop
and they'll look at you.
And sometimes somebody will speak before I do
in a situation like that.
What I'll do in that situation is I'll remain leaned in
and make eye contact,
maybe even keep my finger up subtly
until they acknowledge me.
And then I'll get to speak next.
So usually what they'll say is one of two things.
Sometimes they'll say, "Oh, sorry Alex, go ahead."
Or they'll say, "Sorry Alex, just let me finish this point."
And as long as I remain leaned in and I'm making eye contact
with the person speaking,
I don't think I've ever been denied
the opportunity to speak next.
Number five, when you speak,
don't get long-winded or cluttered.
Make your point clearly and concisely.
Boil down your statement to its essence
and just say that.
So you get in, you get out, don't use fillers or qualifiers.
Just say what you have to say.
Clear and concise sounds confident.
If you boil it down to just a couple of sentences,
you are more likely to hit your target.
So if you tend to ramble,
you may want to jot down some key words
right before you speak
or practice it once or twice in your head.
Number six, when you speak, don't be dramatic.
Don't burst in other words.
Sometimes we finally speak up, it can feel like a big deal
because we've been bottling something up for a while.
But stay cool, don't explode.
If you are the type of person who tends to bottle it up
and then burst, that means you waited too long to speak.
So speak up earlier in the meeting
before you feel your emotions getting pressurized.
Number seven, don't send weak nonverbal cues.
So here's the way confident communicators look.
I was recently looking at some research that showed that
high status people tend to make direct eye contact
with everybody at a meeting,
especially eye contact with other high status individuals.
Low status individuals tend to avoid eye contact
especially with high status people.
So if you want to signal that you have high status,
look directly at the leaders in the room when you speak.
Next, after you speak,
keep your eyes up and listen attentively
to whoever speaks next.
One common mistake that people make is to say something
and then look immediately down at their notes
or at a computer.
But this can make you look defeated, not confident.
Confident people look up when they talk
and they continue to look up and make eye contact
when the next person starts talking.
So keep your eyes up and go 100% back
to active listening mode.
So this moment right after your speak is critical,
because this is what we'll leave that last impression.
So let's step back and talk about the big picture.
If you follow these seven tips,
you'll look and sound more confident when you speak up.
However, a little note here.
It may not immediately feel confident on the inside.
People frequently look and sound more confident to others
long before they feel that self-assurance inside.
Question of the day,
which of these tips do you find most helpful?
And feel free to add your own tips and comments
in that section below the video.
I look forward to reading them.
As mentioned, I have some free resources like a PDF download
on the five essential communication skills
that all professionals should have
as well as some other resources.
I will put links to all of that
in the description below this video.
Until next time, thanks, God bless
and I will see you soon.
Speaking up confidently in a group setting can be a challenge for many people. However, by following these seven tips, you can improve your communication skills and become a more effective speaker.
When you are in a group discussion, avoid sitting back in your chair or leaning away from the table. Instead, lean in and position yourself at the edge of the table. This nonverbal positioning communicates that you are an active participant in the conversation.
Avoid asking for permission to speak. Assuming that others expect you to contribute will help boost your confidence. Remember, you have the right to speak, so seize the opportunity to share your thoughts and ideas.
In professional settings, it is expected that if you have something to say, you will speak up. Don't wait for someone to specifically ask for your input. Take the initiative to contribute during pauses in the conversation. Pay attention to cues that indicate someone is finishing their statement, and start speaking at that moment.
Make it clear that you are about to speak by employing nonverbal signals. Lean forward, audibly inhale through your mouth, and subtly lift your finger. These actions will convey to others that you are ready to contribute and they will wait for you to speak.
When you do speak, avoid being long-winded or cluttered in your delivery. Make your point clearly and concisely, using short and direct statements. This demonstrates confidence and ensures that your message is effectively conveyed.
When speaking up, it is important to remain composed and not become overly dramatic. Avoid bursting out with pent-up emotions. Instead, speak up earlier in the meeting to prevent your emotions from building up and affecting your composure.
Display confidence through strong nonverbal cues. Maintain direct eye contact with others, especially those in leadership positions. After speaking, keep your eyes up and actively listen to the next person speaking, demonstrating your engagement and confidence.
By implementing these tips, you can improve your ability to speak up confidently in group settings. Remember, it may take time for the internal feeling of confidence to match the external perception. Practice these techniques, and soon you will become a more effective communicator.
Which of these tips do you find most helpful in improving your confidence when speaking up? Feel free to share your thoughts and additional tips in the comments below.
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